Worth Waiting 4 | Just Sex?

Just Sex?

Is oral sex, sex?
What about anal sex?
What’s the big deal about “hooking-up” or “FWB?”

The fact is sex is sex!

SEXUAL ACTIVITY, by our definition, is ANY touching of genital (female and male sex organs) for sexual pleasure including, but not limited to, sexual intercourse.

In today’s world, the term hooking-up has been redefined to include sexual activity. Hooking-up can mean anything from kissing and touching to oral sex or intercourse. FWB, otherwise known as “friends with benefits,” is another term that basically means that two people aren't officially going out, but they’re having sex with each other anyway. Casual sex with no strings attached… really?

Warning: The more sexual partners that you have, the greater chance you have at putting yourself (and others) at risk.

“Protected Sex”…really?

Check out these facts and think again.

Lifestyle choices such as hooking-up and FWB can lead to depression and low self-esteem, as well as, disease, emotional stress and relationship problems.
No birth control method is 100% effective. (1)
Teens have higher pregnancy rates with all forms of birth control compared to adults. (2)
Most people with STIs (sexually transmitted infections) DO NOT KNOW THEY HAVE ONE! (2)
Did you know…78% of new Herpes cases are caused by oral sex? (3)

Condoms

You are told to use a condom and “you will be safe.” Before you risk your future, you owe it to yourself to get the facts.

If used consistently and correctly, condoms cut your risk of infection by most STIs in half (4)
Concerning pregnancy, out of all contraceptive methods used by teens during sexual activity, condoms have the highest failure rate. (5)
Condoms only reduce the risk of pregnancy and infection. They do NOT eliminate the risk. (6)

Click here for more information in regards to condom use

Click here to read more about how effective condoms are in preventing STIs

STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections)

Did you know… about half of the new cases of STIs occur in 15- to 24- year olds? (1)

Some STIs are viral. There are medications that can treat the symptoms of a Viral STD, but there is NO CURE.(2) Think about it…NO CURE means the disease will remain with you throughout your life.

Some STIs are bacterial infections which may be cured if caught in time. The tough part is most individuals with STIs don’t know it. If an STI goes untreated, it can cause serious health problems.

Click here to read more about which STIs are curable and which are incurable

STIs can be spread through all types of sexual activity:

Oral sex- mouth to genital (breast, penis or vagina) contact
Vaginal sex- penis into the vagina
Anal sex- penis into anus, rectum. This is the most risky of all forms of sexual activity.
Outercourse-skin to skin contact with the breast, penis or vagina (8)

Click here find out how many STIs there are

Click here to get more STD facts

STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) can cause serious health problems:

Death
Cancer
Pain
Infertility (unable to give birth)
Emotional stress (9)

Click here to find out the difference between STIs and STDs

Do you think you may have an STI? Click here to find out what to do now.

If you have been sexually active, get tested. If you have been sexually active, remember, it is NEVER too late to start making better decisions in regards to your sexual health.

Truly Safe Sex?

PEER PRESSURE is tough. Sometimes it may seem like everyone’s doing it. Just because your friends may make a decision to “ hook-up” doesn’t mean it’s the right decision for you. Those friends will have to worry about pregnancy and STIs (sexually transmitted infections) – not to mention the emotional effect they have. “Hooking up” has its price. It is not emotionally, physically or spiritually safe.

Sex is an adult activity with awesome responsibilities and consequences. Are you physically, emotionally and financially prepared to handle all the outcomes of a sexual relationship, such as having a child(ren)?

TRULY SAFE SEX is sex that occurs in a marriage between a man and a woman who have not previously had sex and who are faithfully committed to each other.

Sex and The Media

“Sex sells!” That’s what one of our WorthWaiting4 Team members learned when she studied media at a local university.

Have you really ever made yourself “STOP”, ”LOOK” and really “LISTEN” to the advertisements, movies, music and music videos of our time? If you ever do, what you will find is that they are often soaked with blatant sexual messages. The messages ofen say the same thing, “If you wear our brand, buy our magazine, copy our look, you will be more attractive and get what you want.” They ofen assume that what “you want” is SEX. Now, ask yourself, “What is the media’s motivation?” This really has an easy answer... the main motivation is to sell the product, service or idea – to make money.

We are surrounded by and often fed a steady diet of negative messages. These messages, namely from the media, constantly try to persuade us that we aren’t good enough. They try to make us think we will ONLY be better if we wear their certain brand of clothing, scent, shoes, make-up, etc., or be more like the famous celebrity, sports star, musician, etc. Often, their messages beat us down saying we can never measure up. In that case, they are actually selling a lie. Each of us has a God-given uniqueness. Sometimes, when we are hit with messages like these, we lose our sense of value and self-worth.