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Integrity:
Sexual
Integrity is self-control, respect and responsibility in
regards to
my sexuality; valuing myself and others; knowing that my
thoughts, speech and actions affect every part of who I am.
It includes abstinence until marriage and being faithful
in marriage. It is protection in childhood, direction in
adolescence, and celebration in adulthood (a faithfully,
committed marriage).
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 Why Wait? Because
YOU are worth waiting for!
Developing Refusal Skills
YOUR LIFE, YOUR CHOICE. You have the freedom to
choose. Make a commitment to yourself and to God,
and stick with it.
Your decision to have sex is very important with consequences that
can last a
lifetime. Don’t
forfeit or delay your right and privilege to experience God’s best for
your life, especially when
it comes to sex.
Maybe you think you don’t need
this information, but you do! Sexual activity outside of a
faithfully committed marriage will invade your boundaries and will damage your
integrity. If
you have no plan and no commitment to wait, most likely, you will give in. The
skills below
work. They can help you maintain your integrity. If you are ever faced with sexual
pressure,
these simple skills can help you communicate clearly and effectively when you
put them into
practice.
4 EASY
TO REMEMBER REFUSAL SKILLS
(Remember the acronym N.I.C.E)
- N - “NO” -Sit up straight,
move away, make eye contact, and say “NO” in
a serious, even toned voice. If you say anything
else, it can encourage your partner to keep pressuring
you.
- I - Use “I” statements, such
as “I don’t want to have sex","I
have decided to wait until I am married,” or “I
care about you and I don’t want either one of
us to get hurt.”
- C - Change activity. Suggest an alternative
activity NOT a risky one. (see dating ideas below)
- E - Exit - If the pressure continues
and the situation is still uncomfortable, get up
and leave; get around other people, call or text for
help.
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How can we keep our relationship under control?
- Don’t
do things that might “turn
each other on.”
- Choose your clothes
carefully.
- Limit your time alone together
- don’t
set yourself up to fail.
- Plan your time
together in advance and stick to your plan.
- Talk
with your date about limits at the beginning of your relationship.
- Find a mature friend, parent, counselor
or youth leader who will hold you
accountable.
Dating Tips
It is a good practice to avoid being
alone together especially for any extended
time. Go out in groups; it’s more fun and it keeps you accountable.
Check out this
site for some ideas:
101
fun things to do
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